My Non-Opening
By Max MacArthur
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I have recently been ‘opened’. The helpers
— all of whom were very good to me — say I have. I say I have not. But they
very kindly and gently insist that I have. In my opening, I just stood there,
while the others did their latihan. This was the first time I ‘witnessed’ the
latihan. I say ‘witnessed’ within inverted commas, because during the entire
proceedings I had my eyes closed, as recommended. I didn’t feel a thing. Is
this normal?
The helpers all say they felt they had a
very strong latihan when they opened me.
Although I was touched by their vote of confidence, I really felt nothing.
Well, if practising the latihan is a crime, there isn’t a shred of evidence to
convict me, while all those around me would have no defence.
From the time I first made contact with a
helper, I attended all the pre-latihan sessions over three months without fail
and with great eagerness. In that time, the helpers told me about Bapak, nafsu,
animal and vegetable forces, ancestors, the prophets from Adam to Mohammed,
etc. I wasn’t interested in coming up with my own opinions, because I was
intent on receiving the latihan. I had read so much
about the benefits the latihan has had for so many practitioners. If the
latihan is what it is cracked up to be, I wanted to receive it.
Following my ‘opening’ I persevered and
attended all the latihans, but nothing has happened to me. ‘Why am I so
special?’ I mockingly ask myself.
I try looking for articles in Subud Vision
on experiences of the opening or ‘first latihan’, as some prefer to call it. So
far in my search, I find very, very little
written about it. To be fair I haven’t finished reading all the articles in the
six Volumes. David A, in his ‘Awaiting My Opening’ makes no mention of what happened in his opening. If there are articles where the authors describe what
actually happened in their openings, I’d be interested to read them. I can name
only two so far: Bronte Grivell’s ‘Open to Whom’ (with only a very
brief description) and Michael Irwin’s
‘How I Latihan’.
In fact, what I would most welcome is
information from people who didn’t feel anything at all in their ‘opening’ but
didn’t ‘scoff, but remained to pray’ and were subsequently opened.
This is not only important to me, but to
all newcomers. All inquirers should be thoroughly prepared by the helpers on
what to expect in their openings: whether they move
or shout, or whether nothing happens. That way, there would be no surprises,
and what is most important, no disappointments. Otherwise, what is the
three-month wait for? And if nothing
happens, what next?
I must admit I’m disappointed. Perhaps I’ve
concealed my disappointment too well. If it is normal that nothing happens in
an opening, then please tell me that. One of the helpers has told me that
perhaps they have not stressed to me enough
the importance of being patient, sincere and submissive.
But how long can one be patient, when in
the meantime you have nafsu, Ramadan, change of names, sab’r, Bapak-speak, etc.
thrown at you while you remain unconvinced you have been opened?
Do I feel like throwing in the towel? Yes,
especially when it comes to attending the latihans. To stand there for half an
hour without feeling any benefit while all the others are having a whale of a
time can be demoralising (‘What the hell are you doing here, old son?’ I find
myself continually asking). Why go to the beach when you can’t swim? If only
people were truly able to put themselves in
the shoes of others, especially those they are trying to help! Is this the
reason why many have left Subud very soon after their ‘openings’? Perhaps they weren’t opened after all? But how do you survey people who have
left? Aren’t they, in fact, the most
important participants in a Subud survey?
But I digress. I am the one who needs
help.